EMOTIONS ARE OVERATED🤔

Wadau na wadauresses 😄. Good morning ❤️

Hope you keeping safe and maintaining a positive Thursday vibe😊😊.

Today I want us to talk a little about emotions. Yes, how do you act when you are îmôshonooo?

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Have you heard of a couple that will disagree and out of emotions one of them breaks whatever is breakable in that house? They will retort heavy words that will break everyone! "I will kill you and all you children." "Your family is cursed" "Your mother is a witch." "You are not the father to my kids" "I hate them so much even if they got infected with Covid -19 I won't mind😧".  Those are some of the heavy words that are spoken out of emotions. You could be having a sibling that you support and this particular day you are not in a position to and they retort with emotions like, "Hata usiwahi nisaidia tena😳" like it's a must for you to. Shameless😅. Such words make even Satan shout 'JESUS CHRIST!😳'😅. 

Interestingly, these are the same people who will cool down and apologize by indicating that it's their emotions that drove them to behave in certain ways.  A times we accuse the defo😅, can't we let this guy be😄, we don't have to drag him into all our mistakes shuwali😂😂. Sijui I have anger issues, anga I struggle with bitterness! Sawaaa, hatukatai but remember that the tongue is a small body organ but very powerful. You are declaring things in your life that you are not in a position to handle 🙅.

Personally, I am a work in progress (w.i.p) when it comes to making decisions when am excited or mad! Because it may turn out to be a regret later.

Mark Manson said that emotions are as a result of one specific purpose: to facilitate us in reproducing a

little bit better and living well. Emotions are feedback mechanisms indicating that

something is either likely right or likely wrong for us; nothing more, nothing

less. 

I can't say it better than he did and so I will just quote him.

"Many people are taught to repress their emotions for various personal,

social, or cultural reasons—particularly negative emotions. Sadly, to deny

one’s negative emotions is to deny many of the feedback mechanisms that

help a person solve problems. As a result, many of these repressed individuals

struggle to deal with problems throughout their lives. And if they can’t solve

problems, then they can’t be happy. 

Remember, pain serves a purpose.

But then there are those people who overidentify with their emotions.

Everything is justified for no other reason than they felt it. “Oh, I broke your

windshield, but I was really mad; I couldn’t help it.” Or “I dropped out of

school and moved to Alaska just because it felt right.” Decision-making based

on emotional intuition, without the aid of reason to keep it in line, pretty

much always sucks. You know who bases their entire lives on their emotions?

Three-year-old kids. And dogs. You know what else three-year-olds and dogs

do? Shit on the carpet.

An obsession and overinvestment in emotion fails us for the simple reason

that emotions never last. Whatever makes us happy today will no longer make

us happy tomorrow, because our biology always needs something more. A

fixation on happiness inevitably amounts to a never-ending pursuit of

“something else”—a new house, a new relationship, another child, another

pay raise. And despite all of our sweat and strain, we end up feeling eerily

similar to how we started: inadequate.

Psychologists sometimes refer to this concept as the “hedonic treadmill”:

the idea that we’re always working hard to change our life situation, but we

actually never feel very different.

This is why our problems are recursive and unavoidable. The person you

marry is the person you fight with. The house you buy is the house you repair.

The dream job you take is the job you stress over. Everything comes with an

inherent sacrifice—whatever makes us feel good will also inevitably make us

feel bad. What we gain is also what we lose. What creates our positive experiences will define our negative experiences.

This is a difficult pill to swallow. We like the idea that there’s some form

of ultimate happiness that can be attained. We like the idea that we can

alleviate all of our suffering permanently. We like the idea that we can feel

fulfilled and satisfied with our lives forever.

But we cannot."

I honestly think we overrate emotions ☺️. What do you think?